In addition to all the physical aspects of cancer, there is the coping with the mental and emotional journey. I have sought out counselling a couple of times from the EAP already and they have provided some good advice in terms of maintaining positive perspective, the importance of self-care etc.
One of the best things they said to me was, what would you tell a friend that was going through your situation?
I said something along the lines of: you're stronger than you think, and will beat this. you need to take care of yourself, ask for help when you need it and don't be a hero. I am here for you for whatever you need.
the counsellor then talked about how sometimes we are nicer to our friends in difficult situations than we are to ourselves. and that I need to remember to treat myself like I would treat a dear friend going through this. I thought that really resonated with me.
I like my medical oncologist more and more with each meeting so far. this week, we talked about my chemo schedule and also about a planned cottage vacation we had scheduled for August 13-20. it turns our that the cottage week falls right in between the first four and the last four chemo sessions, between where the drugs are switched. he said I could take a one week break and there would be no consequence to my treatment plan or results. I was so happy to hear this as I think I was really looking forward to the cottage and was sad to think I might have to cancel it for this year. there is something so healing about spending time hear the water. the doctor said "quality of life is very important" - and was very supportive of us. Another important point to remember. Regardless of how I feel physically, I need to try to focus on quality of life and being grateful for little things that I can experience every day. The sunshine, walks with Mimi when I am up to it, reading in my backyard, connecting with others who support me on this new journey.
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